Finding Your New Normal After A Loss

Posted on Apr 18, 2022 | 0 comments

Over on Conscious Straight Talk With Katie & Lindsey we have been sharing the raw journey Katie has been on since loosing her father very suddenly and unexpectedly 2 weeks ago. We have talked about how to talk to each other on grieving and our children. Today we talked about finding your new normal after a loss.

When everything slows down and the realization sets in, finding your new normal after a loss can be a huge challenge. This is ok and normal. Accepting the loss is only the first step, figuring out what is next can bring some wonderful learning opportunities. Here are some tips we hope will help:

Finding Your New Normal After A Loss

Connect with others. Please do not try to weather this sad season alone. You will start to loose your mind and we don’t want you to go down the rabbit hole. Spending time with other people who have gone through or are going through your situation can help, sharing stories, feeling heard and understood can make all the difference.
1. Find a great grief counselor
2. Find the right grief group that fits you
3. Check with local hospice associations, mortuaries, counseling agencies, urgent care centers and hospitals to find local grief groups to attend.
Take some time each day to journal your feelings, your memories and even some goals so you don’t get lost. You can even draw your feelings in there, just get them out with pen and paper during some quiet alone time each day.
Create a collage journal or a vision board. Use your memories paired with special quotes and things you want to write. Use the vision board to listen to your heart, hearing spirit and come up with goals that you think your lost loved one would like to see you accomplishment. Meditate over it and take time creating it. Really listen to your intuition.
Track your dreams. Keep a dream journal next to your bed and the minute you open your eyes, reach for the journal and write down what you can remember. So many messages come in this was that often go forgotten in the stress and brain fog of loss. Likewise, a great tip is if you are experiencing nightmares or terrors, write these out, however change the ending to a happy ending. Write them often, your brain will see this and begin to register the good, letting go of the pain. It works the same as we talk about with reframing our neural pathways.
Write a letter to your lost loved one. This can be so healing. Take time, write as much or as little as you wish. Seal it. And put it away. 6 months later write another one, seal it and put it away. Say everything and anything you want/need to say. After a year open them, see just how far you have come.
Sit across from an empty chair, pretend your lost loved one is there and say out loud everything you need to say to them. Ask their advice on moving forward. Ask for the guidance, talk about anything you need too.
Find a new hobby. Whether it be creative, arts and crafts, dancing, singing, acting, sporting, collecting, find something. Body work is incredibly therapeutic offering many releases.