6 Signs Of Deep Loneliness

6 Signs Of Deep Loneliness


The feelings of loneliness that accompany trauma healing work can often times be crushing. Loneliness, usually dismissed as a passing emotion by most, can sometimes manifest as a profound and enduring state of being. Deep loneliness permeates the soul, leaving individuals feeling lost, disconnected, isolated, and devoid of meaningful connections.

While it may not always be readily apparent, there are several signs that indicate someone is experiencing deep loneliness. Being that we need each other, I want to share 6 signs of deep loneliness that if you or someone you know are experiencing, you are not alone. It’s time we all start talking about it.

6 Signs Of Deep Loneliness

  1. Social Withdrawal. Feeling like no one would miss you or even notice if you were gone so why should you go anyway? You begin to decline invitations to social gatherings, avoid initiating conversations, or withdraw from previously enjoyed activities which serves as a defense mechanism, shielding you from potential rejection or disappointment. Being alone is easier, right? (NOOOO!!!!)
  2. Feeling Isolated and Invisible – experiencing a pervasive sense of emptiness or sadness. Despite being surrounded by people or engaging in activities, individuals experiencing deep loneliness may feel an overwhelming sense of being invisible or sadness that persists over time. This profound emotional void can be difficult to articulate, leaving them feeling hollow and disconnected from themselves and others.
  3. Oversharing at every opportunity – you may exhibit changes in behavior or moods, sharing things inappropriately and not even realizing it as the weight of loneliness takes its toll on their emotional well-being. It can escalate over time, impacting your overall quality of life and relationships.
  4. Always putting other’s needs before their own – your habits of negative self-talk or low self-esteem cause you to ignore yourself and always put others first. Feelings of unworthiness, that you are not loveable or are inadequate may plague your thoughts, fueling a cycle of self-isolation and self-doubt.
  5. Feeling like you don’t belong anywhere – you feel out of place and silly everywhere you go. These feelings can be so deep that they can actually cause physical problems like insomnia, fatigue, changes in appetite and more. And they are very hard to articulate so this is our bodies way to tell us we are in trouble.
  6. Trying to be overly helpful or nice, the fake nice – you may be feeling so bad that you overcompensate for those feelings by going out of your way, strangely, to help others, maybe even overstepping a bit. Pin this:signs-of-deep-loneliness

Sadly, deep loneliness can manifest in desperate attempts to fill the void through unhealthy coping mechanisms – excessive use of social media, porn, substance abuse, gambling or engaging in risky behaviors. These coping mechanisms provide temporary relief but ultimately exacerbate feelings of isolation and disconnection in the long run.

So What Can We Do?

Recognizing these signs is crucial in providing support and compassion to ourselves and to those experiencing deep loneliness, as it can serve as a catalyst for meaningful connection and healing.

By fostering empathy and understanding, we can create a more compassionate and connected society where no one has to endure the pain of loneliness – alone.

Don’t be afraid to reach out and talk to a friend you are worried about. Don’t be afraid to reach out if you are feeling lonely. It is way more common than you think and the light will start to shine with your very first step. Contact me here for more, I would love to hear your story.


Malibu Mama Loves Xx


Author: malibumamaloves

I am a conscious mama, a dv survivor, a conscious trauma informed life coach who has overcome trauma and helps others turn their pain into purpose in facing their unhealed traumas.

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