15 Signs You Are A Victim Of Gaslighting

15 Signs You Are A Victim Of Gaslighting


Gaslighting is a brutal tool used by toxic people to control and manipulate others to see them as perfect. This tool can make one feel like they are completely crazy, imagining things and their heads are just in a fog spinning all the time. It is completely disorienting. If you are a victim of gaslighting, you will feel dazed and confused after speaking to that person about something you were so sure of.

When a person is subject to gaslighting over a long period of time, it can completely change their brain chemistry without them even realizing it. Others around them may notice, but the emotional abuse is so strong that often it goes on for ages causing depression, anxiety, addiction, suicidal thoughts and other mental health concerns.

There are many signs of gaslighting. But first, read this post to learn exactly what gaslighting is and brush up on as much info as you can.

Now that you are still wondering, see if any of these 15 signs you are a victim of gaslighting resonate with you.

15 Signs You Are A Victim Of Gaslighting

  1. You doubt your feelings and your reality around you – you regularly try to convince yourself that the treatment you receive is that bad or maybe you really are just too sensitive.
  2. You constantly question yourself – you do not trust your judgements or your perceptions of situations. You have learned sharing your opinions and thoughts usually just makes you feel worse in the end so you just stay quiet and don’t bring anything up.
  3. You feel insecure and very vulnerable – you are always walking on eggshells around this person and defer to their ways.
  4. You feel alone and that you have no power – you are convinced that everyone around you thinks you are crazy and they just don’t get you. You feel like you are alone, trapped, weird and unstable for staying.
  5. You wonder if they are right – the thought creeps in – more often than not. Are they right? You constantly repeat what they said to you and wonder if they really are right about you.
  6. You are disappointed in yourself – you feel weak and like you are on auto-pilot, just going with the flow.
  7. You feel confused – things don’t make sense. Nothing seems to add up.
  8. You start thinking maybe you are too sensitive – their minimizing your behavior allows them to continue it, even worsen it just so you can prove you are not sensitive. It is a slippery slope.
  9. You are always waiting for the other shoe to drop – you are always ready for something bad to happen, not even knowing why.
  10. You spend a lot of time apologizing – you constantly feel the need to apologize for you who are and what you do.
  11. You feel inadequate – you feel you are never good enough for anything or anyone and kill yourself going to great lengths to reach others expectations of you.
  12. You second guess yourself – you no longer trust your own judgement, on anything.
  13. You struggle to make decisions – you look to the gaslighter to tell you what to do so there will be less fighting.
  14. You wonder what is wrong with you.
  15. You assume everyone is disappointed in you. They are not, but the gaslighter loves that you think so…

Gaslighting is terrible form of abuse leaving the victims spinning and giving away their power in life. It takes time to heal from gaslighting, but it is entirely possible to reclaim the True You. Recognizing the signs is the first step to healing, the second is awareness of how this plays into your life.

Did any of this sound familiar to you? Are you ready to take the next step together? Contact me here.

Malibu Mama Loves Xx



Author: malibumamaloves

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